For Moms

‎(For all the mother's (including pregnant ones) in the world, this one is for you! - Author Unknown)

We are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of "starting a family." "We're taking a survey," she says half-joking. "Do you think I should have a baby?" 

"It will change your life," I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral.

"I know," she says, "no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations."

But that is not what I meant at all. I look at my daughter, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes.

I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will forever be vulnerable.

I consider warning her that she will never again read a newspaper without asking, "What if that had been MY child?" That every plane crash, every house fire will haunt her.

That when she sees pictures of starving children, she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die.

I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive level of a bear protecting her cub. That an urgent call of "Mom!" will cause her to drop a soufflé or her best crystal without a moments hesitation.

I feel that I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might arrange for childcare, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting and she will think of her
baby's sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure her baby is all right.

I want my daughter to know that every day decisions will no longer be routine. That a five year old boy's desire to go to the men's room rather than the women's at McDonald's will become a major dilemma. That right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming
children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester may be lurking in that restroom.

However decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess herself constantly as a mother.

Looking at my attractive daughter, I want to assure her that eventually she will shed the pounds of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself.

That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. That she would give herself up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years, not to accomplish her own dreams, but to watch her child accomplish theirs.

I want her to know that a cesarean scar or shiny stretch marks will become badges of honor.

My daughter's relationship with her husband will change, but not in the way she thinks.

I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his child.

I think she should know that she will fall in love with him again for reasons she would now find very unromantic.

I wish my daughter could sense the bond she will feel with women throughout history who have tried to stop war, prejudice and drunk driving.

I want to describe to my daughter the exhilaration of seeing your child learn to ride a bike.

I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog or cat for the first time.

I want her to taste the joy that is so real it actually hurts.

My daughter's quizzical look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes. "You'll never regret it," I finally say. Then I reached across the table, squeezed my daughter's hand and offered a silent prayer for her, and for me, and for all the mere mortal women who stumble their way into this most wonderful of callings.
Please share this with a Mom that you know or all of your girlfriends who may someday be Moms. May you always have in your arms the one who is in your heart.

20 Things a Mother Should Tell Her Son

20 Things a Mother Should Tell Her Son

1. You will set the tone for the sexual relationship, so don't take something away from her that you can't give back.
2. Play a sport. It will teach you how to win honorably, lose gracefully, respect...(tharr be more)authority, work with others, manage your time and stay out of trouble. And maybe even throw or catch.
3. Use careful aim when you pee. Somebody's got to clean that up, you know.
4. Save money when you're young because you're going to need it some day.
5. Allow me to introduce you to the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom.Now please go use them.
6. Pray and be a spiritual leader.
7. Don't ever be a bully and don't ever start a fight, but if some idiot clocks you, please defend yourself.
8. Your knowledge and education is something that nobody can take away from you.

9. Treat women kindly. Forever is a long time to live alone and it's even longer to live with somebody who hates your guts.

10. Take pride in your appearance.

11. Be strong and tender at the same time.

12. A woman can do everything that you can do. This includes her having a successful career and you changing diapers at 3 A.M. Mutual respect is the key to a good relationship.
13. "Yes ma'am" and "yes sir" still go a long way.

14. The reason that they're called "private parts" is because they're "private". Please do not scratch them in public.

15. Peer pressure is a scary thing. Be a good leader and others will follow.

16. Bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea.

17. Be patriotic.

18. Potty humor isn't the only thing that's humorous.

19. Please choose your spouse wisely. My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.

20. Remember to call your mother because I might be missing you. Peer into the depths..

Questions to Ask

Most us live in somewhat of a robotic state from day-to-day without facing some of the big questions that can lead us to more fulfilling lives and a sense of abundance. Here are 25 questions to start asking yourself everyday to stimulate a greater sense of awareness of who you are and why you are here.

1.     Why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

2.     What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?

3.     If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?

4.     Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?

5.     If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?

6.     Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?

7.     What's one thing have you not done that you really want to do and what's stopping you?

8.     Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?

9.     Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?

10.  Is it possible to know the truth without challenging it first?

11.  Has your greatest fear ever come true?12.  Do you remember that time years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?

13.  Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?

14.  When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?

15.  If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?

16.  When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?

17.  If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?

18.  What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

19.  Do you allow people to be themselves or do you feel the constant need to fix or change them?

20.  When you forgive somebody, do you feel empowered or disempowered?

21.  Do you believe there is more to life, space and time than what you have been told?

22.  When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?

23.  What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?

24.  What are you most grateful for?

25.  Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?

Laws of Success:

> The great sin -- Gossip.
> The great crippler -- Fear.
> The greatest mistake -- Giving up.
> The most satisfying experience -- Doing your duty first.
> The best action -- Keep the mind clear and judgment good.
> The greatest blessing -- Good health.
> The biggest fool - The man who lies to himself.
> The great gamble -- Substituting hope for facts.
> The most certain thing in life -- Change.
> The greatest joy -- Being needed.
> The cleverest man -- The one who does what he thinks is right.
> The most potent force -- Positive thinking.
> The greatest opportunity -- The next one.
> The greatest thought -- God.
> The greatest victory -- Victory over self.
> The best play -- Successful work.
> The greatest handicap -- Egotism.
> The most expensive indulgence -- Hate.
> The most dangerous man -- The liar
> The most ridiculous trait -- False pride.
> The greatest loss -- Loss of self confidence.
> The greatest need -- Common sense.

Definitions & Measures of success

Some examples ...

1. Money and status

2. Some measures are Grades at school, size of house, car, bank balance

3. Other measures are relationships - number of friends, peopel who love you

4. Health & beauty /  fitness level

5. Material possesions - toys, gadgets .....

Below is my favourite definition....

"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and to endure the betrayal of false friends. To appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know that even one life has breathed easier because you have lived... this is to have succeeded."

We need to teach our daughter

We need to teach our daughters the difference between a man who flatters her, and a man who compliments her .... a man who spends money on her, and a man who invests in her .... a man who views her as property, and a man who views her properly ..... a man who lusts after her, and a man who loves her ..... a man who believes he is God's gift to women, and a man who remembers a woman was God's gift to man. "

Move on!!!

A wise man once sat in the audience & cracked a joke. All laughed like crazy.



After a moment he cracked the same joke again and a little less people laughed this time.



He cracked the same joke again & again, When there was no laughter in the crowd, he smiled and said



"When u can't laugh on the same joke again & again, then why do u keep crying over the same thing over and over again.





'Forget the past & move on' and that’s the life